By David Coy
Sunrise
As a society, are we afraid of death? Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross in her book, “On Death and Dying,” said that looking back on cultures of our past and people that death has always been distasteful to us. She said it is understandable because of our unconscious mind thinks that, while it happens to other people, we do not expect it to happen to us. I think rather we are unprepared. Dr. Kubler-Ross goes on to say that there is a greater occurrence with psychosomatic disturbances and adjustment and behavior problems than acute or life-threatening situations. As functional medicine reminds us, our bodies are created/designed to heal themselves. As we walk our journey with grief, we must have hope that we will heal and move forward after a loss. Michael S. Barry aptly said that our bodies react to thoughts and feelings. Attitude truly determines altitude. Hope is our attitude.
You have probably heard the expression seeing is believing; well, that is backwards. Believing is seeing, and if we would move forward and heal from our loss, we must believe in hope for the future. We must have hope of healing, hope of acceptance of our new reality and hope of laughing again without feeling guilty. We must especially have the hope that there remains purpose in our life now that our significant other has gone on to their reward. A hopeful present and future await us for the taking if we but believe. Believe we still have a purpose to fulfill, and I assure you that is the case. Believe that you are not alone in your journey. There are others waiting to walk with you from the first step to the last for as long as is needed. A support group awaits to provide moral and social support through all the ups and downs in your journey. You would be amazed at the blessing of sharing with someone who commiserates. If we can be of service please allow us the opportunity.
